When disagreements flare, science-backed strategies and a soothing tea can turn sparks into growth: slow your breathing to activate the parasympathetic system and lower reactivity, name the emotion to reduce its intensity, and use “soft start-ups.” Sip mindfully together or during a cooling-off period to signal safety and pause escalation. Combine these practices with curiosity-driven questions, time-limited breaks when needed, and a commitment to repair after conflict, and quarrels become opportunities for deeper understanding rather than wounds that linger.